What People Are Saying
“Tony is a very special human being. There were times during the retreat that were very raw, emotional and confronting for me due to past trauma. I wanted to break through and challenge myself. Tony made me feel very safe to be vulnerable and completely myself during this process”.
Ardon E
“Tony is a living embodiment of the power of sacred intimacy to transform oneself. His openness, authenticity and deep capacity to both honour personal process & hold space are second to none. I trust him and the work he does implicitly. You will be transformed”
Michael O
“Tony is an exceptional teacher and leader and very knowledgeable in his field. I have grown and learnt so much and have become a real close friend with him; he is caring, honest, empathetic and most importantly a totally genuine man”
Sean W
“Tony has a lot of knowledge and experience, I feel like he has a beautiful gift to share with this world and I feel super blessed to experience this myself. I would highly recommend any of Tony's work/retreats and I look forward to attending more in the future”
Jason L
My journey
“I’m not here to “fix” you. I walk beside you — inviting you to turn inwards holding space for your own self-assisted study, just as I did for my own.”
Hi and welcome — my name is Tony.
If you’ve ever felt broken by your past, I know exactly what that feels like. For a long time, I lived with the belief that I was damaged beyond repair. My trauma left me carrying emotions so overwhelming I’d do anything to suppress them — numbing, avoiding, distracting, blaming. On the outside, I looked like I was in control, but inside, my life was spiraling into chaos.
Eventually, the weight of it all became too much. I hit the point where I could no longer live with the pain, and I knew something had to change.
That’s when my healing journey truly began.
At first, I tried to “fix” myself — diving into different therapeutic modalities, each one offering me exactly what I needed at the time. They helped me take steps forward, and little by little, the darkness became less destructive. But something still wasn’t complete. I remember a friend telling me, “Tony, you need to become more embodied.” At the time, I had no idea what that even meant. Embodied what?
What I came to realise is that embodiment isn’t about perfection or enlightenment. It’s about coming home to yourself. It’s about feeling safe in your own skin, connected to your emotions, and free to live with authenticity. And that shift — from suppression to embodiment — changed everything for me.
For the past 25 years, I’ve devoted myself to this path. I trained in:
Hakomi - Experiential Somatic Psychotherapy
Embodied & Co-Creative Counseling
Certificate in Trauma Informed Coaching
Certificate in Polyvagal Theory - For Somatic Regulation.
PPSA - Purposeful Peer Support Training
Peer Support Practice
Peer Support Groups
Peer Support Reflective Practice
Peer Support Supervision
Conscious Relating & Sacred Sexuality
Men’s Sacred Sexuality Workshop Facilitator
RomiRomi & Mirimiri - Indigenous Bodywork
Residential Initiations
Temple Culture for Shadow Integration
Multiple residential Initiatory Containers of Temple Culture, Shadow, Integration and embodiment as a path of preparation for sacred service.
Each of these practices not only deepened my healing but not only gave me tools but the lived experience to hold space for others. Today, my passion is creating safe, transformative spaces for gay men to strengthen and deepen their embodiment — but to reclaim the sacred birthright moving beyond surviving and step into thriving, connection, intimacy, and freedom.
I don’t see myself as a guru or a fixer. I’m a companion on the journey. I walk alongside you — holding space, sharing practices, and guiding you through the same terrain I’ve walked myself.
If you’re ready to break free from old patterns, reconnect with your body, and live a life that feels true to who you are, I’d be honoured to walk this path with you.
Hakomi practitioner – Somatic practitioner - Mentor – Embodiment Counsellor - Shaman – Healer – Tantric and Romiromi Bodywork Practitioner – Trauma informed facilitation - Men’s Workshop facilitator and hearth circle host - Temples arts and ISTA graduate,
Soul Initiation for pioneers of the heart. Self-initiating October 2024. Opening more deeply into the mysteries of love. Love of the soul, love of the dark and the wild love that flows from that place. We explore the integration of love through the three rings of spirit, soul and embodiment.
Sage: Sage has a long history of use in Egyptian, Roman, and Greek medicine, as well as in Native American healing traditions. Dried sage is burned as a way to heal, protect, increase wisdom, and boost defense against disease.
Self initiated Marriage November 2024 Humanity is vibrating through a life/death portal between worlds. The heart is the guide for this journey. We are calling the pioneers of the heart - those beings willing to go into the unknown together - to open up new trails into the emerging mysteries of group soul initiation. Wild love in action.
Being in choice
Shiva Lingam The Symbol of Shiva in Hinduism. Lingam means a "mark" or a symbol, which points to an inference. Thus the Shiva Lingam is a symbol of Lord Shiva: a pointing to the Omnipotent Presence, which is formless.
Pink: Higher conscious love Red: Connection,grounding Orange: Passion,courage Yellow: Clarity,choice Green: Heart Blue: Expression,freedom Violet: Vision, imagination Indigo: Trust, perception
Igniting the dragon within
Hakomi Training 2020
Yab-yum: known as the full embrace and represents the divine masculine and feminine in Neo-tantra
View from the lodge: 2020
Sacred Altar: created at one of our sweat lodges 2019.
Loving connections on retreat
Dinner and reflection at Manu Wairua: 2019
Self-reflections
labyrinth Rooted in ancient civilizations and intertwined with metaphysical beliefs, sacred geometry sees certain shapes as naturally harmonious, carrying meaning beyond their physical form. The labyrinth symbolizes how everything in life is connected and offers a pathway toward spiritual growth and healing.
Fire
The "Will to love"
Me 2018
Sunset over the Manawatu - Palmerston North New Zealand
Pride in The Park - 2019
Starting the fire for the grandfather stones: sweat lodge 2020
Shiva - the divine masculine is always at the center of our sweat lodges, held at Manu Wairua Retreat.
Trusting your body's yes and no's